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May 16, 2021, 04:18 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2004
Location: Kentucky, USA
Posts: 25,079
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Originally Posted by Have Hope
It’s not that I want to hurt him back. I want him to know that too much damage occurred and that it’s truly not fixable. And I don’t use his infidelity at all as a weapon. Instead, I’m still very hurt by that in addition to all other hurtful and damaging behaviors and treatment. It’s that I want him to understand that a few weeks of good behavior in no way makes up for all the harm and hurt he caused. I’ve wanted him to know that he’s hurt me greatly in this marriage, which he does now know and acknowledge.
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The thing is, just like with him, talk is actually meaningless at this point. He knows what you have said( too damaged to recover the relationship) & you know what he says (I've changed)
You don't see his changed behavior & he doesn't see you ending the marriage. That is called "stalemate " not "checkmate"
For either of your words to mean anything to the other, ACTION must be taken appropriate with the words you are saying. Right now you are both just swimming in pointless circles.
Exactly what I was doing before I made my move & left & started a new independent life of my own
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Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this.
Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
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