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Old May 17, 2021, 05:01 AM
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Originally Posted by eskielover View Post


The thing is, just like with him, talk is actually meaningless at this point. He knows what you have said( too damaged to recover the relationship) & you know what he says (I've changed)

You don't see his changed behavior & he doesn't see you ending the marriage. That is called "stalemate " not "checkmate"

For either of your words to mean anything to the other, ACTION must be taken appropriate with the words you are saying. Right now you are both just swimming in pointless circles.

Exactly what I was doing before I made my move & left & started a new independent life of my own
I've asked him for the marriage certificate, and I've mailed in my application for a copy of it to St Lucia, where we got married. I've also contacted my lawyer to see if he can help me file for divorce and to ask how much that would cost me - but now I realize I need the marriage certificate in order to file. Still, I am taking steps to end this stalemate.
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