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Old May 17, 2021, 12:14 PM
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Originally Posted by eskielover View Post
I know in my situation it was easier to not think about my EX because I was 2100 miles away in a new home on a farm in a new town & I realized months later I was NEVER thinking about him. I was told all my life that absence makes the heart grow fonder.... lol....I KNEW THEN that absence was the absolute best thing I ever did. Now only time I think about him is when I am still dealing with the legal battles & the financial things he has done that are still screwing me up financially. The rest of the time though my wonderful environment fills up my thoughts.

You will get to that point & the mindfulness you are doing to redirect your thoughts is great
Thanks @eskielover. Your personal story gives me hope and inspiration. I am really looking forward to getting to the point where he's not on my mind at all and doesn't even cross my mind. Until then, I will keep redirecting my thoughts away from him so that I do not dwell in the negative. That's precisely what I wish to avoid at this point - swimming in negative thoughts of the past vs thinking positively about my present and bright future.
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