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Originally Posted by Have Hope
I stopped explaining it to him - for the last few weeks. I've tried to explain it in about 20 different languages. He finally just recently acknowledged all the hurt and harm he's caused, and that was enough for me to stop.
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I never got that far with the guy I had in my life. Glad you got that out of him at least. That there was some persistence lol, with trying to explain so many times.
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Originally Posted by Have Hope
Thanks @ eskielover. Your personal story gives me hope and inspiration. I am really looking forward to getting to the point where he's not on my mind at all and doesn't even cross my mind. Until then, I will keep redirecting my thoughts away from him so that I do not dwell in the negative. That's precisely what I wish to avoid at this point - swimming in negative thoughts of the past vs thinking positively about my present and bright future. |
Thanks for this post. I agree he knew how to try and manipulate people to get them to focus on him. Really good that you didn't let him do that anymore. And this post, yeah, I like your attitude and I said thanks for it because I want to feel the same way (not about him because I'm past him but my other traumatic relationship because I'm still dealing with that one sometimes from time to time and I had to process more about it recently so this topic is very timely for me). I think I've already started doing it about this other relationship (not romantic), i.e turning away from the negatives and focusing on the positive in the present and in the future, but your post gives me good energy anyway.
