Sooooooooooo..... please don't come down on me for this since it's the last thing I need. But yesterday he had to pick up more belongings from my home (yes, there were a couple more boxes I found in our attic space), and I last minute decided to come outside to greet him. We haven't seen each other since breaking up over a month ago because I have refused to see him. The motivation to do so now was to finally see him and face him after the breakup.

We talked for about 20 minutes - most of it was Ok and amicable. But when we began talking about us, which inevitably he brought up, it wasn't so amicable. He told me that I cannot get over the past, and that's why we broke up. So of course, he's still throwing the blame my way by saying you're the one who cannot get past things. So I turned it around on him and told him: you caused too much damage for 2.5 years of our relationship for me to move forward.

So, of course, we're playing the blame game, with him still clearly not taking responsibility for our marriage ending. What can I expect? Nothing from him except blame. Of course he blames me; otherwise, he would have to own up to all of the abuse and that would shatter his already frail ego and false image.

I also asked him if he's in therapy yet, and of course the answer is no. He won't ever go, I am sure of it, despite ALL his clams that he will.

So today I feel some amount of peace after having seen him, and I feel I did the right thing by doing so. I wished him well, and I wished his father well. I feel good about it. I finally took the high road and I feel that's a better place to be than feeling bitter and angry.