Forgive me for saying so, but I feel like you're contradicting yourself by saying he could be a jerk, he could be married, he could be living with a woman and I'll be careful, but then still you're making grand statements like he's ideal for you and that you adore him. And sorry, I don't mean to point fingers and blame you here, I have all good intentions of watching out for your emotional well being and safety.

I agree with the poster who pointed out all the red flags. One red flag standing out to me the most right now is he claims he lives in a dorm. This seems like a set up so you won't want to come visit him. And he travels a lot on business, and had no photo on his dating profile. These are red flags, in addition to the chauvinism you just mentioned. You said you don't mind this, but this could be an indicator of how he may treat you once the honeymoon phase ends. You mentioned you grew up in a chauvinistic household, so perhaps it's easier to let this slide because you're used to it and were conditioned to this behavior growing up. I think it's something to watch out for. He treats you well now, but of course he does since you're taking care of his every need - you feed him, you give him a home to sleep him and you're taking care of him. This is far too much too soon in my opinion. He should also be reciprocating - how is HE taking care of YOU? Is he? You say you don't want flowers or chocolate or little gifts, but these are the things men should be doing in the beginning of a new relationship. But he doesn't need to do any of these things since you are doing all the giving without asking for reciprocation.

I feel wary of this man given several red flags. My gut tells me he has another woman somewhere, and that he's fabricated moving there within the last 3 months to live in a dorm and travel on business. The biggest tip off is no photo on his profile. When dating, people who are married and involved don't use photos because they don't want to be found out. Those who are single and looking to date have photos.

Again, I think you need to avoid conclusive statements such as he is ideal for me and I adore him. Wait on coming to conclusions about this man. You still do not know him well, and he very likely could be lying to you given all the red flags pointed out here.