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Originally Posted by Have Hope
I also asked him if he's in therapy yet, and of course the answer is no. He won't ever go, I am sure of it, despite ALL his clams that he will.
So today I feel some amount of peace after having seen him, and I feel I did the right thing by doing so. I wished him well, and I wished his father well. I feel good about it. I finally took the high road and I feel that's a better place to be than feeling bitter and angry.
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He won't go to therapy and even if he did, don't expect him to change substantially in the next 10 years or so.
I don't know if I'd wish anyone well or assume such nice things like maybe they are going to therapy, if they had done enough terrible things.
In such a case my goal would only be, not be bitter and angry about the rest of the world. But stay angry about the terrible, immoral things committed, to keep up boundaries about such things in future. I don't mean the anger would have to be expressed (or if expressed it would have to be controlled enough), it's simply my own feeling inside, to protect me.
But that's me. Maybe you deal with these things differently. I agree, don't become bitter/angry about the whole world just because of him. To me, that's enough of a high road. Some people never get over their negativity from such experiences and will project them into other situations and people instead.