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Originally Posted by Crypts_Of_The_Mind
I'm not sure if you misunderstood me when I spoke of online friendships. That is legit the only type of friendships I have, but as far as relationships, I am married irl and we live together.
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I see. I was trying to address this situation exactly with my thoughts and when describing my experiences (you may or may not agree with them, you are free to do in whatever way you see fit). I understand that you have a marriage, my main point was that if you only have online friends next to the marriage, it is going to be harder to handle all the stress and going to be hard with trying to not expect too much from your spouse to make up for the lack of IRL friendships. Because my experience is really just that online friendships are far from satisfying and fulfilling like IRL ones are. And it's less effective at emotional support, too, and more bad drama can happen online, more easily, where people can more easily block each other and stuff. People do not even really know who they are talking to when communicating online, unless that person is someone they know well IRL too. All that makes the experience too ungrounded, not fulfilling and not worth it for me. That is me, again. Just saying all this in case it helps or makes sense in some way.
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As far as my husband misinterpreting me, I doubt it .. bc he is always telling me how much pain his feet n legs are in and having me massage them. So we speak on the health of his feet n legs often.
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Ah yeah that makes sense about the background of that comment. But I thought he was in some irrational bad mood, so that's why he responded with "well I will just go to bed and you wont have to see me!". To me it sounds like he was unable to remember the normal context for your compliment, the actual background for it and interpreted it with the negativity he was already sinking into. That's just my guess, it could be something else.
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As far as my friend online who blocked me: She had never referenced this guy nor had I ever spoke with him so I do not know if they have a relationship that goes beyond friendship. Yes she spike with him privately as well regarding our exchange of words.. so I dont know what was or was not said. No she is not manipulative by nature but has gone through a lot of abuse in life, same as me. And no, she has never blocked me not warned me she would (as in trying to end a conversation that irritated her or etc).
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Ah OK, to be clear I meant that she may have been manipulated by the guy, not that she herself is manipulative. I meant that if this behaviour is out of character for her (and it seems so?), then she could've been affected by the guy's "machinations" or emotional influence where the influence was in an unhealthy way (ie emotionally manipulative). I don't know, it's only one option. Another one would be what you mention about abuse, maybe she's got into some negative phase trying to process all that and she overreacts easily now. I really don't know though. Whatever it is, I hope you two can sort it out somehow, or if not, then I wish you luck to moving on from it and feeling OK again.
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Thank you for saying you dont see me as responsible.
Also thank you for the kindness regarding my anxiety of speaking on here due to ways I have been treated. ❤
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Glad if I could help.
