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Originally Posted by Alive99
I see. I was trying to address this situation exactly with my thoughts and when describing my experiences (you may or may not agree with them, you are free to do in whatever way you see fit). I understand that you have a marriage, my main point was that if you only have online friends next to the marriage, it is going to be harder to handle all the stress and going to be hard with trying to not expect too much from your spouse to make up for the lack of IRL friendships. Because my experience is really just that online friendships are far from satisfying and fulfilling like IRL ones are. And it's less effective at emotional support, too, and more bad drama can happen online, more easily, where people can more easily block each other and stuff. People do not even really know who they are talking to when communicating online, unless that person is someone they know well IRL too. All that makes the experience too ungrounded, not fulfilling and not worth it for me. That is me, again. Just saying all this in case it helps or makes sense in some way.
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Honestly, the people around here are not the types you want to befriend. They brag about
They brag about jail time served
They figure out who is worthy of friendship by figuring out who can mess over who's life the most (intentionally) .. and that becomes the person they befriend. Back stabbing is not a "bad thing", its seen more as a "right of pasage" and it's how you deepen your friendship bonds. It's all backwards and I want no part of it. So online friendships are all I can do. I understand your point. It's just not feasible here is what I'm saying. ❤
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Ah yeah that makes sense about the background of that comment. But I thought he was in some irrational bad mood, so that's why he responded with "well I will just go to bed and you wont have to see me!". To me it sounds like he was unable to remember the normal context for your compliment, the actual background for it and interpreted it with the negativity he was already sinking into. That's just my guess, it could be something else.
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I don't think I will ever understand it.
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Ah OK, to be clear I meant that she may have been manipulated by the guy, not that she herself is manipulative. I meant that if this behaviour is out of character for her (and it seems so?), then she could've been affected by the guy's "machinations" or emotional influence where the influence was in an unhealthy way (ie emotionally manipulative). I don't know, it's only one option. Another one would be what you mention about abuse, maybe she's got into some negative phase trying to process all that and she overreacts easily now. I really don't know though. Whatever it is, I hope you two can sort it out somehow, or if not, then I wish you luck to moving on from it and feeling OK again.
Glad if I could help. 
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I honestly dont think we will ever be friends again nor donI think I will ever have answers as to what happened. I am slowly making peace with it but all this happened in one day and it just sent me for a loop. Ya know?
Thanks again. *hugs*