Thank you again for the replies.

Night bird it is true that I am anxious to lose the person I care about and because I know it will hurt, I try to see it coming ahead of time so I can protect myself from it a little. Also I try to be aware of what the other person is doing so that Im not staying with somebody who may be cheating or lieing to me. Sometimes things look different then they really are and I relise that which is why I take some time to see what is really going on before reacting. I really appriciate you saying that part of this is good...I can see that it is good that I try to keep an eye on things. Like I said before I just wish that I didnt worry so much and cause myself to hurt only to find out it was nothing to worry about. I wish somebody who has worked on a similar problem could give me some pointers....