@bpforever1
I understand your upsetting. It has been made lots of assumptions about this guy. I want to believe that they were only due to call your attention to be cautious.
I wanted to stress you on two points:
One is that you said he has a physical flaw and it makes you feel more confident in the sense that he could be more available. It gives you kind of sense of security. But, I wonder up to what point a relationship could be based on you or the other being seen as inferior.

The other point is that I see you very given. Slow it down. Give yourself the permit to see what the other does. There must be a balance, especially in these first stages of knowing each other.