First it’s a good thing you are noticing this challenge. Unfortunately this is something that can be handed down and it’s one of those unhealthy methods of parenting a child. It’s stemming from poor communication skills instead of actively engaging the child.

It’s basically telling a child “I am not going to pay attention to you unless you give me what “I” want”. It instills the wrong message in a child. You are right in how this teaches people pleasing and codependency. Yet it can also create a narcissist too.