Papa are hard. I did get one a couple of years ago and got diagnosed with vaginismus. Simultaneously did a HPV screen (HPV vaccination isn't standard here like other vaccines throughout the schooling years of 6 to 17) which fortunately came back negative.

I forgot who wrote all those great suggestions in the last couch. But yeah, they can go slow, tell you everything they're going to do before they do it,use the smallest speculum, give you breaks to deep breathe, etc.

As for ultrasound of uterus, I didn't have to do a transvaginal. They did a transabdominal one instead. That's non invasive: transducer with conductive gel.