Thanks, you've given me a lot to think about. There's context I'm leaving out but you're right, the push-pull has gone on for too long. It's the worst part of BPD for me, I can't seem to stop splitting on him.

I have been clear in the past about wanting to continue therapy with him. The freak-out after him saying we couldn't move on together stems from this being the fourth time he's suddenly said he wouldn't see me anymore.

He's says he wants to start fresh and rebuild trust but I don't know how to do that and not be scared something else will upset him enough to say we're done again.

I understand it isn't ethichal to keep a client who is in a stuck place, but he keeps saying no matter what he will continue to see me. And then the opposite happens.

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