“Mindfulness doesn't mean that I "accept" something problematic in the sense that it is okay, or I that I just have to live with it, or that I should relax with it.”

Say, for example: X does something every time that makes me feel awful. I can accept that I cannot control X, I do have to live with X doing it because they are going to do it, and I can feel the emotions about it that I have without judgment, those emotions are what they are, I feel them, they are natural to me. However, I can react differently to X to try to improve my feelings about what they do. I can change my thinking about it and decide it’s okay, I can relax with feeling bad about what they do without reacting, I can interact differently with X or not act at all.

Have I got this concept?