I only began to have MH issues (that became prevalent) in my late 30’s. They were triggered by relationship issues, not all me the dysfunctional one, it takes two. I spend all of my time trying to control my MH now, but am still constantly triggered by the same person doing the same thing. So, while I obsess over my reaction, I do not leave or make better the triggering situation.
I never had a psy/t to really figure it out and set any plan in motion to help me, much as I have tried over many years. I feel I was always let down by the MH system. I have really just gone this alone and with supportive here.