Dear icedog,

You will have to be ice cool. She is not dead set but a little difficult to be convinced. Gentle words and patience will do but you will have to be strong and show that you can be trusted by not making too many mistakes again. Just remember, when a PPD shouts, the anger is directed at the situation but not you. This is why you do not typically see violence in them.

The question is how do PPD cope with marriage as the relationship becomes based on trust. Asking a paranoid person to trust is by definition absurd. But I have seen it done. Love is cool.