My mother in law (susie) lives 5 hours away from us. she's in her late 70's but still able to live independently. She's been making repeated phone calls to us whining about fake health issues, fake fears (claimed someone jiggles her door handles) and trying to manipulate us into saying "come live with us". basically she is lazy and wants to sit around our house and be waited on hand and foot. It's probably only a matter of time before she starts losing bodily functions and I refuse to be wiping her behind when 1 she's not my mother 2.) I've still got 2 teenagers that I'm taking care of and causing me enough stress. Susie has another son who lives a couple states north of her (7 hours from us) and he has washed his hands of the whole deal claiming he "doesn't have the patience to deal with her". My husband told me last night he wants to buy a house near our house for her to live in. That made me FUMING ANGRY! First, because it's not fair to us to take on the financial burden of another mortgage when the other son is perfectly capable of contributing financially but is trying to skip out on his end of the responsibilities. Second, the next step after she moves into a house near us is for her to actually move into our house. NO WAY is that going to happen! My husband is a push over with his heart on his sleeve and doesn;t see it that way. But again it's not fair for our privacy and home to be invaded by this old woman and the other son (jimmy) gets to skate free of the whole thing. I told my husband NO to the house idea, raised all these issues that have me so angry and suggested an apartment instead (with the idea that Jimmy will be forced to contribute half to the rent). At this point, my husband said "forget I said anything about this. Just forget I brought it up."

What should I do? Just let it drop like he said? Or go ahead and charge this topic head on and have the fight now?