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However, I can react differently to X to try to improve my feelings about what they do. I can change my thinking about it and decide it’s okay, I can relax with feeling bad about what they do without reacting, I can interact differently with X or not act at all.
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I would just add that in my view mindfulness facilitates these steps.
If you are busy hating the behavior, in denial about the behavior, railing against the behavior, then your creative and imaginative energies are diluted or diverted altogether from the possibility of improving the situation, or if that isn't possible, at least coming to some sort of peace with it.
If you can come to acknowledge and examine the behavior carefully and nonjudgmentally, really get to know it, then your creative and imaginative energies are more free and can better function.