So far. Lol.

I talked to a guy I've been chatting with online on the phone tonight. I found out he just broke up w his girlfriend of a year 6 weeks ago. He said he's "over her" but I was uncomfortable. It sounds like a rebound sort of thing and he brought her up a couple times. He seems very bitter about her. He said she emotionally abused him.

I told him later on, that it seemed like he was still processing his breakup, and that I'd prefer not to talk about his exes when we hang out. I also mentioned I'd like to be friends first. In response to me telling him my discomfort with talking about his ex, He said, what seemed to me passive aggressively, "I was just trying to get you to open up, but..." It was so weird.

He texted me saying he was glad I called so I'm confused. I asked him if there was something he wanted me to "open up" about and he said "no, nothing specific." It was just weird.

I think the main thing, is that I want to trust myself. Sometimes in the moment, I struggle to trust myself. I also tend to go to " well maybe I perceived it wrong." Because sometimes I do! I misinterpret things sometimes. But sometimes I don't.

I thought I'd been open in conversation. I felt pretty comfortable up until he repeatedly started complaining about his ex, then the possible passive aggressive comment. I did tell him I'm disabled (mental health) but looking for work, bc he asked in that direction, but I told him it was private reason re my disability, and said he was ok with that for our first conversation.

I want to tell this guy I can't hang out and wish him luck. But...I'm kind of nervous to atm. Though I will, when I feel ready. Edit: maybe we can hang out as friends to get to know each other. I dunno.

I'm just wondering what others here may think? Maybe he felt criticized when I said I didn't want to talk about exes or be the one to help process it with,him. I tried to be really nice about it though.