Thank you all for your input. I've read all of your comments. I feel I've calmed down a little. I know my anger was very obvious but that's why I came to this forum. Most of the time, anger does not solve a situation. But I had to get it out. Personally I don't think my mother in law would be happy selling her home and most of her stuff and moving down to our city. I don't think she's considering that she'd be leaving behind all the close friends she has had for years, her church and the support they've given her for 20 years as well as the convenience of living in the very small town she lives in where literally everything she needs (doctor, grocery store, pharmacy, fast food, gas station, library, church, etc) is on one little road that her house is also on. She would be coming to our city which is 10 times bigger, lots more traffic with aggressive drivers that would scare her, everything is unfamiliar to her and none of the support she has from people she's known for years. I think she'd be miserable. And as for wanting to be near family, well.....everytime she's around us for a holiday she fights with us! She yells at us! In her head she thinks she needs to move, but she's not thinking it through. And my husband is giving an emotional knee-jerk reaction to her by saying "okay lets move you close to us". Neither one of them has their thinking cap on.

My hope is that she will stay where she is. If not, then I will suggest she be moved into a 1 bedroom lower level apartment in our city and hope she does not become an even greater burden on us when she realizes she's even more alone and miserable than she was in her old town. But I will NOT allow her to move in with us. I draw the line somewhere and that is where.