People complain on here about their spouses all the time, yet remain in the relationship. This is a support forum and I should be able to post about my husband in any way that I wish to.

You sound very condemning, unsupportive and judgmental. A more compassionate reply would have been along the lines of "I can see how hard this is for you... leaving someone is not easy, nor is divorce. It's a big life decision, it's one of the most difficult life experiences one can go through, and emotions can be contradictory".

Perhaps he can change - perhaps not. But at this point, I cannot deny my feelings. If he cannot change, then I truly will have my answer.

He has spoken with his mother about his anger issues, even. He is accepting of it now and wants to address it in therapy. This gives me some amount of hope.