I'm very urban by default because I grew up in a city but that just sounds really nice to me. That's what I started really looking for with people a few years ago - feeling good and connecting like that. Where they also do feel real to me like you said earlier. I'm still thinking about what makes things to be like that. That realness. I think safety, trust, not feeling like having to guess at intentions and attitudes, just no overcomplicating of things, people overall just knowing it's all okay and getting along with each other, that's what makes things really flow like that. Also what you said about no masks earlier, I think, I liked that too for this. I eventually got to know a few people like that where I can feel that way with them in a closer relationship, but not with most people beyond a point. Maybe because of the urban living environment, I don't know. But that's enough for me, and my goal is just that, not more. That really relates for me to the thread's original post too. In my experience, if I can have that "sync" with people due to having felt the safety and trust and real "sync" with them for long enough, it all somehow having a really objective grounding in reality, so to speak, all that realness, then I don't even have to try too hard to see what the other person really meant, and they don't have to try too hard either and it just feels good overall. It's harder to do online or when there's no sense of safety. Easier when there are many shared and good, positive experiences in real life.