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May 25, 2021, 08:37 PM
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Member Since: Apr 2014
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Originally Posted by eskielover
I have actually enjoyed moving from Los Angeles with millions of people, to a small farming town 2100 miles away. The real fun thing is that I can talk to anyone about almost anything. Also when there are difficulties in relationships, people are so real here that it is easy to work through differences.
Being that I had a career in computer engineering, my close friends are mostly retired career people too but I enjoy hanging out with my friends also involved with horses & farming. There is actually a more diverse group of people that are friendly here than in Los Angeles & it has changed my whole outlook & way I live & enjoy relating to people. I have learned more from many here than I did living in Los Angeles where people more kept to themselves. I love my community & am more involved & know more people here than I ever did before.
Yes, opening doors between people allows us to learn more & they can learn more about us & being down to earth (real people) without masks or ego makes for an amazing environment to live in & actually connect with people at a much more meaningful level.
Growing up I sensed inside that there had to be more to relationships than the superficial stuff I saw my parents experiencing in their life & even in my own marriage. When I moved, it is like the door was thrown wide open but I had to figure out what I was really experiencing after 54 years of life the other way. Once in awhile I find myself trying to correct an old thought/behavior but for the most part after 14 years I have totally adapted to my new wonderful environment & the people here.
I struggle quite often with the people in the barn apartment where I keep my horse on the neighbors farm (no one but them live there) they just couldn't grasp the rules I had for keeping my horse safe up there no matter how many ways I tried to communicate. Talking people who do drugs & that created a challenge of having rules set & helping them out when necessary too. Always interesting when your life interacts with people you wouldn't normally associate with but want to make it work as well as possible. Definitely a new kind of door that opened while being firm with my values while trying to be as gracious as possible in understanding theirs
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It's always ironic for me to hear you talk about Los Angeles, knowing that I moved away from here and then moved back because Los Angeles is just my city. I made good lifelong friends here, I found a community here when I became a sustainable streets advocate and was a road cyclist. I have found another community with the dog agility community. I enjoy being part of the scientific community here too.
I also found that coming back to LA was good for my mental health in many ways. I love the mountains and the snow, and you know I lived in cold climates. I feel a little bit more like I am a nomad, and just LA is kind of my home base.
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Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder
Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia.
Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien
Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less...
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