I wish there was a way to know whether to stay or go too!!! And which is the right decision. I think deep down you know what the decision is.....it's just a matter of being ready to take the steps and actually do it.
The only thing I can say is that there are so many of us on this site that are in confusing, unhappy, and even bitter relationships...but it's up to us to decide when we are fed up enough to take action.

Ya know if you need counseling, even for yourself right now, there are programs out there based on financial need. Get out your phone book and call a few places to find out. Everyone can benefit from the support of someone else, especially when your not getting any support from the partner you live with!!!

I hope you find the help you need, and in time you get to a place that makes you truly happy!