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Originally Posted by thekingof8
How do I stop wanting to seek validation from other people? I always feel I am never good enough and need to be told I am doing well. I try to tell myself, but it doesn't seem to work. It's like I'm chasing for people's affection when I don't need to.
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That makes sense on a level to me. My issue is more like, I want attention from people who I want to feel close with. It is something I'm sure that I can figure out over time, it is probably because I sometimes have the belief come up that they don't care. But I have that belief less and less and feel more and more connected for real. You expressed your own problematic belief, that you are "never good enough" and I recommend CBT to try and change this belief. With CBT you can observe, explore and reason about the things you do well and also reason about how it doesn't define your personal essence if you sometimes make mistakes. Good luck.