I’ve been dealing with a chronically frustrating situation with the same triggers in a relationship. It happened again, so it brought me down yet again. I did have four good days thought up until then! But now I am no longer crying and ‘acting out’. I am calm and just want to find the strength to do what is best for me moving forward. No one should have to live with this kind of stress.

I realize my part in it. I have a need that probably stems from a disorder. My h just can’t wrap his head around the way he needs to act to meet that need. It was simply, really, not even that strange, but obviously something completely impossible and opposite of anything he can fathom. He cajoled and lied to me thousands of times that he gets it and will do it, but he never does, so we fight. I see the futility and have had enough. I am completely set in this faulty thinking I’ve adopted and rigid. I can’t change it. And he can’t do it, although he keeps lying that he will but then just doesn’t.

I need help getting away from him and learning how to be alone and at peace.