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Old May 29, 2021, 07:02 PM
Alive99 Alive99 is offline
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Originally Posted by AzulOscuro View Post
You are not alone in this. I never felt the feeling of belonging anywhere. I know that it had a lot to do with my tendency to withdraw from people because of my social anxiety.
But, it’s a thing I always craved. But, at the same time, I sabotaged for not believing myself worth of it.

In your case, why do you think it happens.
* If you want to elaborate about it.
(I don’t want to press you, anyway, you can always contact me by a pm, you know it)

Thank you. I meant that I don't often experience that feeling. I have had good times with some people, it's just rare/doesn't happen with most people. I did have a period when I was younger when I didn't feel good with people at all, because of bad experiences as a teenager/at university. It seemed like I built a wall around myself, both inside me and around me, so others thought that I'm ignoring them and that I don't care, while I also thought they don't care. Tricky. It first started resolving when I had a little business on the side and met some people as part of it and had good experiences with them. Then I had more good experiences when I started regularly running and went to relay races and met some nice people there. Then eventually I decided to work on myself, psychoeducation, therapy, .... And then from then on, I just started to get better over time, my brain healed more, and I got comfortable enough. So now I can be really comfortable with some people, but with most people I'm still distant, maybe that's just how I will always be. I don't need more than a few people who I like being around, if it's mutual I really worked a lot on the belief that "people don't care" (either in close relationships or in groups/communities). That helped, too. I hope I explained well. Let me know if you have any questions! And I also hope that you will get to feel more comfortable too and that you will feel that you are worth it
Hugs from:
AzulOscuro, Discombobulated
Thanks for this!
AzulOscuro