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Originally Posted by Stuck1nhead
It’s 11:50pm, my wife and I had a argument over something I thought we would wait on discussing. She wants a yes or no to whether I’m giving her a second child when our first just turned 4 months old. What she doesn’t know is that her constant badgering is pushing me away. I’ve tried to communicate this to her, but she won’t listen.
I’m a man so I don’t understand the power baby fever has over one’s desires but the topic of a second child is driving me insane. My wife and I have been married for a little over two years now. I’m convinced that this topic is going to end our marriage.
I’ve asked her repeatedly as to why she wants a second child. The only answer she could give me was that she “wants our son to have a companion”. This confuses me beyond belief. Her siblings made her home life growing up a living hell. My sibling did the same but not to the same degree. So why is she so convinced on a second child???
At this point not a day or half a day goes by when she’s not talking about a second child or asking me when we will have a second child.
I tell her quite simply that as of right now I’m not eager to have a second child. To just give me 6 months before we talk about the issue again. But she won’t let up. She is relentless in her goal to have a second child. I haven’t even told her that I only agreed to have the first one was because she forced me into it. I love my son but I would’ve had a happy life if it was just my wife and I.
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She sounds unrelentless in her pursuit of a second child, while ignoring your stated desire to hold off on that conversation.
How is your marriage otherwise? Are there issues between you? I’ve found that when one person constantly badgers their partner for a baby, that it means they’re trying to solve another issue in the marriage by using a baby as a band aid solution. This is why I ask how your marriage has been otherwise. I suspect something else is going on here.