Whereto52

That's a great word to describe those feelings. Very sad that we often adopt this attitude for self-preservation or it just manifests itself for a number of reasons.

There are so many contributing factors. How we are treated by others, usually negatively. It becomes a coping mechanism.

It's difficult to free yourself from the shackles. It can be like a comfort blanket, to avoid any more hurt. Or it's a hereditary state of mind, that manifests itself as we get older. Sometimes, as in my case, someone opens up your mind again. That's not without its problems. The suppressed emotions can take you to the other extreme.

Hope this makes sense!