Both men are not a good option for many reasons. Well the ex is not in the picture and isn’t even responding to you. If you haven’t seen him for that long, it’s time to move on plus he was full of drama when he was around (lying etc). So that fantasy isn’t even exciting one.

Your current guy doesn’t sound like happily ever after either. Lives with mom, has some other issues and isn’t bringing up life long commitment.

I’d go with third option: move on from both guys and not date for awhile. Or fourth option: look for a better relationship material. Neither guy is Mr. Right