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Kiya said:
yeah, our thoughts are something like a bunch of neruo transmitters corresponding and synapses. they can be changed, but it takes time, practice... several things come to mind... one is EMDR therapy...one is watching "What the [Bleep] Do We Know" and one is watching "The Secret" ... they deal with thoughts and how to change them.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Thanks, Kiya. Maybe I need to do some more EMDR with T specifically on this topic. It has helped me in the past. I'm not quite sure how to broach that. Hey, T, I need more EMDR! RE the other thing you wrote-- I don't think I'm looking to change my thoughts, it's my feelings that seem problematic.

Thanks, ECHOES, Perna and all. Lots of wisdom here.

Perna your post was so full of good information. Maybe I can write the key points on my hand with a pen and refer to it when I start feeling something. Kind of like the Feelings Cliff Notes by Perna. I think you are right about the feelings. They just are. You can't tell them to go away. I need to learn to recognize them and resolve them. That is such a tall order. When I think of that huge task, I can get overwhelmed, like I might as well drop this course now! But it's not a course, it's my life.

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Or you can "train" them not to step on your feet by wearing neon shoes with spikes coming out of them that will pierce the bottom of their shoe if they step on yours

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it's more like figuring out how to turn off the burner. Then the stove cant burn you anymore. i dunno..

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I don't know either, jello. For me, it seems like turning off the stove would be like ignoring my feelings, stuffing them down deep inside. I don't want to do that. I did that for years. Maybe I do have to touch the stove, over and over, and confront this. I remember once when I was having a very intense session with T, these waves of pain and hurt were sweeping over me. Each time a new wave was coming, T would see it, and say here comes another one. It was so physical. I also remember him saying, "you have to go through the pain." So I did. It was great to reach the other side. Backing off would not have solved anything. Maybe it is the same with this more global problem. Jello, if you try some new solutions, and they work, please let me know!