None of them are giving you what you want and both seem pretty unreliable. It's all well and good to have a rosy view re the ex but he wasn't making you happy either.

I would suggest taking a step back from relationships and this urgency to get married. Take time to be with yourself, do personal work (e.g. pattern of going for unavailable or unsatisfying men) and then see if romance comes along.

Don't rush into marriage for the sake of it. None of these men are cutting it.