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Originally Posted by AzulOscuro
It happened the same to me. I built a wall around me and I’m sure people notice it and felt uncomfortable with.
I would have also felt very uncomfortable with a person like me lol!
People have already enough things running on their lives, we can’t ask them for doing this big effort that is to break a wall of bricks to reach out to us.
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Your last line....I don't know. I think it's a big and Sisyphean effort only if the other person with the wall isn't trying to reach out too.
I know that with the depression from the cPTSD, I'm taking way longer to get better if I don't ask people for any help. Or if I ask but I get turned down. When I do get help after I asked, it helps speed up the process so much, it makes healing speed up so much, makes the process so much more efficient that I just am like .......well yeah the world we live in is far from perfect lol.
So I just try to get the help wherever, whenever I can, from whoever I can. I also naturally feel the motivation to give back to them, too.
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Originally Posted by AzulOscuro
Connecting, connecting I don’t think I can do such a thing to be honest. My only improvement now is that I don’t put the blame onto others, what I do already consider a big step.
I used to see the world as hostile. My first psychologist stresses on that fact and asked me to let myself being known and being “penetrated” by others. At that very moment I understood that I was wrong and that I had to change my view.
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That is really big. A big step, yes. I wish the person that traumatised me had been told like this by such a psychologist. She also saw things, the world, people as hostile, randomly switching to see them as hostile.
I'm sure you will get there with connecting, too.
