Thread: Dating again!
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Old Jun 02, 2021, 02:36 AM
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So, we disclosed our illnesses. Unfortunately, he did not understand mine. Also, he is having trouble at work and would like to go home. So, it is ok. He does not like the work culture here- all work and no play. So, I understand. For a short while, it was nice. But, I don't see anything long-term. I'm not interested in a long-distance relationship and neither is he. We got along for awhile. But, he never lifted a finger in the kitchen nor anything else so I see potential issues. He's taking me out next time to a nice restaurant - a sort of farewell meeting? I don't know since he is not sure he will stay or not. I will remember his advice and support. He was ok to me. I was nice to him and our time together is memorable. But, truthfully, I'm better off alone because I need my space. It is ok to have a boyfriend but nothing too serious for me. I realized with him, I need to be alone for long periods of time and need to just do my own thing. He was nice to me but I realize he does not think my education matches my salary. He point blank told me I earn little. Lol, so he is snobby! Yes, he earns a lot but is cheap. So, I don't know who would want to go out with him honestly. I knew he is rich and cheap but wanted his companionship which he offered. The best thing is that I learned from him-he offered me good advice about my job so all is not lost. I realized he does not think of me in his league. So, I don't need that attitude. I have met many people like this. They don't understand my illness and understand the necessity for me to take a less stressful job. But, that is not their problem, it is mine. I need to survive on my own and be healthy. I don't think I will date for awhile after he leaves. If he stays, I will still date him but nothing serious. He seems to be happy being single too. I understand his situation. Who needs a long-term partner when one can find many sexual partners and have a bit of fun? We are both getting old. For me, I just want to enjoy life and so does he. We don't need to complicate matters with commitment. So, it was nice to know him for awhile. If he stays, I will just play it cool, meaning not take him too seriously. I really need to be alone for my mental stability. I was getting stressed out thinking of all the things I need to do to entertain him. So, I don't need to do this anymore. I think he was the first man who did not abuse me though which is a good sign on my part. I am maturing rather late but realize that relationships are hard for me and take energy and time. I like being alone but not so alone. I had a great time with him despite his snobbiness and cheapness. So, I have no complaints. It is good that I found out that I need to be alone most of the time. I am happy since I am doing relatively well and am on my own without much problems. So, my wish is to just be mostly alone and once in awhile have some fun but nothing serious. I really need to focus on my well-being, instead of on others.
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