Current T doesn’t really criticize me….and rarely tells me, ‘no.’
Oh sure, she’s said ‘no’ when I asked if I could see her more than once a week in the beginning.
She had to say ‘no’ because she just didn’t have the hours.
For normal things like that…she’s said, ‘no.’

Many months ago I sorta half-did this one thing she didn’t approve.
All she had to say to me was,

‘Not cool.’

I never did it again.

She didn’t berate me, humiliate me, nag me, yell at me, question my intelligence, threaten me, blame me, shame me...she didn’t even act angry, mad or disappointed.
Not one feather appeared ruffled.

Just, ‘Not cool.’

I think that’s pretty cool.