Hi. First time here or on any forum. Last week I heard Esther Perel define 'Infidelity' as having 3 components:
1.) Secrecy
2.) Emotional Joy
3.) Sexual Alchemy

Ever since, I have been feeling more depressed. My wife has been minimizing her infidelity and I have felt guilty for not being able to 'get over it'. Its just that I keep obsessing on the pain, the betrayal, the lies.

I dont know if I can stay in the marriage as I just dont trust her. So, I am thinking of a Seperation.

I need time to see if I can get over it, or not.