Hey,
My mother has been emotionally and mentally abusive since ei was a kid. I don't remember the physical, she stopped when I was 2 years old because I learned quickly to behave and do what she wanted. Dad also caught her and made her go to a parenting class.

Anyway, I finally moved out this spring after moving back in for five years. This week I went back several times when she was at work, never saw her, and finished getting my stuff. It was emotionally difficult to walk into the house again.

I have not destabilized. Today I feel pretty calm and level headed. Kind of sad for what might have been, but also so glad to be out of that house and free.

I am free. I am on limited contact with her at my request. And the last control she had, over some possessions, are gone. Rough road still. But I am at peace today.