I, too, am Christian and had separated from my husband last Nov. Since then, I've discovered the meaning and value of having and holding faith in a whole new light. I pray regularly. Prayer is giving me a far greater sense of peace and comfort. I know that my prayers will be answered, as they always have been answered. Bringing faith back into your life can give it so much more shape, value and meaning.

I think I can understand your struggle. I used to be very stuck on a past relationship while in another relationship. Perhaps the present relationship isn't fulfilling enough for you, and it seems it's going nowhere towards a more permanent future. Perhaps that's why you're stuck on a past relationship that held more promise? Or perhaps there are issues left unresolved from the past relationship, making it harder to fully move on in the present moment? Only you know the answers.... for me, it was the latter - there were many unresolved issues from the past relationship that kept me focused on my past.

I have now devoted myself to a more spiritual existence, and it's helping to ground me and to give me hope and peace. Perhaps doing some spiritual work will help you, too, in addition to seeing a therapist.