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Originally Posted by stopdog
A problem results when not everyone agrees on what constitutes being nice etc and un-named expectations are often not usual. I did X expecting Y when the other person has no idea/expects A and B.
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I think you’re correct here, SD.
I wonder how I can adjust my expectations and behaviour to avoid this kind of experience in the future. Maybe I should do less “being friendly and nice” and then expecting that in return? Bc then I am super annoyed when people aren’t that way.
I’m not saying I ought to be a jerk, just that I maybe shouldn’t go out of my way to be nice.