It is so difficult when it’s the therapist who is causing distress. I have had major and minor incidents where the therapist’s action or inaction have caused me great distress. For me, the answer has always been to terminate. I’m not saying that’s always the answer, but it was appropriate in my circumstances. I don’t have the best memory of your history of rupture/repair with L, but I would encourage you to continue to try to mend once you’re in a place where you’re stable enough to do that. You mention logic versus emotion; I’ve found that I’m most effective when I’m in wise mind, so perhaps that’s something you could work towards.

I wanted to be respectful and answer the question you posed, but I also have other thoughts about the situation that are more solution-focused. Are you in a space where hearing something along those lines may be helpful?