I see you are partly right. Sometimes, we are assuming things but most of comments, in my opinion, are based on the things we read here (of course, always a partial view and without a whole picture or context and also based on people’s own experiences and knowledge).

You, yourself, are giving a little of contradictory messages about how you feel with this relation.
On one hand, you have said that you are very proud of sharing your cooking with the guy and that you insisted him to not help you to do the any washing our tidying but then, you have also complained about him not lifting a finger.

Another example is you said he wasn’t a good person, and then, you said he’s not that bad.

It seems to me to have read that you don’t expect a long-term or serious relationship with him but in your last post, you added a nuance by saying that you didn’t expected such a thing FOR NOW. What makes me think that you are still hopeful.

In my personal opinion is not a good signal when someone have these contradictory thoughts about a relationship with someone, not in all cases, each case is different, but in cases as yours or mine, when I think you share this with me, you tend to lay on too much on the validation from the outside because we don’t easily find it in ourselves for several reasons...I think we have to be more cautious because we maybe end up too much emotionally engaged in the relation.

This is what I can see at this moment. Maybe, I’m wrong and you have your things very clear and we don’t have to get worried.

People who are here in your thread, me included, I think that I don’t get wrong, are not gonna put up with less than a guy who treats you like a princess.
I think it replies to your concern about some comments you weren’t agree with.