BPforever- “It is interesting to read everybody's comments but I wonder what they are based on. If you all have decent partners who are perfect in every way, then great.”

^This is a great observation. I would think that nobody’s partners are ‘perfect in every way’. Also, we are far from perfect, too.

Azul- “People who are here in your thread, me included, I think that I don’t get wrong, are not gonna put up with less than a guy who treats you like a princess.”

^This is a great point. Speaking for myself, I AM going to put up with a whole lot less than always being treated like a princess. I’ve generally had relationships where they have treated me very well, like I want to be treated. But… each one did things that sure was not princely. I sometimes did put up with it. I have been putting up with more than most anyone else would ever. It caused me intense anger and frustration, depression, anxiety, and a diagnosis. Still, the treatment is mostly very good, as I want to be treated. So, I have continued the relationship feeling like no one else would treat me better, like being alone is not something I really want.

I’m not sure what kind of support you are looking for from us, BPforever. You haven’t asked us anything, really. Your posts are more like you are putting your thoughts out there and reassuring yourself, and that’s fine. I am glad for you that you have felt good about this bf and have a healthy attitude about whatever you choose to happen with him or him leaving.

I agree, when you say you feel somewhat bad about him not doing something fair, people will chime in that you should stand up for yourself. It’s a natural reaction from us to try to help you make things right, the way you want them.