For me, this is usually a sign that I need to go sloooooow. Way slow. Even slower than I think I do. Because on the one hand, it's really important to get in touch with your gut instincts and to really listen to yourself and your needs. And on the other hand, trauma can cause you to have all sorts of reactions that may not be helpful or conducive to healthy relationships. So asking yourself how L is making you feel when you're in her presence, what you think her intentions are/were, and why she acted the way she did can be really helpful. That's where the repair can heal old wounds, but it isn't the kind of thing that can really be rushed or forced.