you are very normal! and you are coming into your sexual peak! women go thru it much later than men. they tend to go thru theirs very young. teens and twenties. what I would do is tell him you would like for him to give you the oral as well as giving it to him. I don't know if you are a drinker or not but if you are maybe have a couple of glasses of wine to relax you enough to talk to him. I too am very quiet when it comes to letting a man know what I want. I can however do it when I have had a couple of drinks. you lose the inhibitions. good luck!