I guess I am confused. Are you protesting the use of the word "toxic" to describe someone else's behavior that is unhealthy? Meaning, are you in general disagreement that people should not call other people's behavior as toxic or unhealthy? And that people should look in the mirror first before labelling someone else's behavior as toxic? I guess I don't really get where you're coming from. I find many people's behavior to be toxic for me - meaning, I become unhealthy-minded being around the person, and therefore, I choose not to be around people who are emotionally unhealthy for me, and I choose not to engage with people whose behavior negatively impacts my mental health or mental and emotional well being. I had one friend that I had to sever the friendship with because she definitely was toxic/unhealthy for my mental health. She dragged me down instead of lifted me up. To me, toxic means being around a person who feels like poison to your soul and spirit.