Thanks very much, WovenGalaxy, that’s really helpful! I hadn’t thought about doing number 5, but think that’s a good idea. It is horrible when this stuff happens, because nobody deserves it, though it does trigger some feelings of guilt/shame I know the perpetrators should be carrying, not us. Again, I’m getting a bit better at not absorbing other people’s feelings when they do this, but it’s still hard. Some of the people who act this way seem to know exactly where to keep hitting, too, so to speak, if they don’t just walk off. Sorry you’ve both experienced this, too.