Many people are conditioned to believe they deserve bad treatment. Many were raised to blame themselves. “If only I didn’t do or say XYZ, he’d treat me better. “ We want to be careful not to tell people that they should always blame themselves. Many people also believe that bad treatment isn’t that bad because that’s all they know, so let’s not tell people they must accept bad treatment because they aren’t perfect themselves or “it isn’t that bad”.

Sure there are people who enjoy to play victims and don’t take responsibility for anything in life, it’s always someone else’s fault.

But let’s not assume it’s everybody. Generalizations and stereotyping aren’t helpful for anyone.