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Originally Posted by divine1966
Sometimes people are bullied because of conditions they have no control over. My husband has been bullied in life due to Tourette’s and OCD. No he isn’t a victim moping around. He is successful and well adjusted and he never allowed it to break him. But he had some experiences that are quite disturbing. Lets not tell victims of bullying that they are “targeting” bullies by calling it what it is. Let’s not tell him it’s his fault he was bullied or that he was bullied because he is unhealthy. He is healthier than the bullies! That’s for sure!
As about abuse victims. Many abused children choose abusive partners. Many children growing up in abusive marriages choose abusive partners. Sure they should work on getting better but that’s not that easy for some. We can blame them for making bad choices but it’s not that simple. Children of alcoholics marry alcoholics and then their children marry alcoholics until maybe someone breaks the pattern... or not...etc etc so it’s entire chain to blame. Not just one person.
It’s easy to place blame. Easy to generalize and oversimplify. But it’s not all black and white. Life is more complicated than that
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And many people here have been victims of abuse. MANY. I think people should be very careful around allotting any kind of blame and pointing fingers at anyone when it comes to abuse victims or victims of any kind. I find this whole thread to be about pointing fingers, rather than having any kind of compassionate stance towards anyone for any issues they may face. People who like to judge and point fingers are usually very insecure in how they see themselves and need to find fault with others.