My goodness. What I see here is people who like to use that word to describe people upset and defending why they need to use that word. Use it if you like. It does say something to others when you are describing relationships to other people and person after person is described as abusive and "toxic." Until you fix what is in you that's attracting and allowing these people in your life, this will be your lot in life. Period. You do you. You can go to a million counselors trying to fix that other person. You will just be doing that with person after person until you fix the WHY this person is in your life.